Lifestyle clubs
Many big cities have on-premises clubs with membership, a door fee and house rules. Our guide to swingers clubs covers how to join one and what a first night is like.
Swingers in the USA
Swingers USA: Meet American Couples Who Play
From Los Angeles to Long Island, meet American swingers who say what they want and mean it.
American swingers on Find Swingers
Find Swingers has more than 560 members in the USA, and about a third of them are couples. They are younger than our members as a whole: a third of our American members are under 35.
The American scene has its own habits. People talk about "the lifestyle" rather than swinging, on-premises clubs are a big part of the picture in the big cities, and many couples happily travel to a party or a club in another city. Distances are huge, so the first conversation matters more: you want to know a couple is worth the drive before you book the hotel.
Our US members cluster in a handful of states, which is where most of the clubs and parties people search for are too.
Where our American members live
| State | Share | Worth knowing |
|---|---|---|
| California | About one in eight | Our biggest group in the country |
| New York | About one in eight | Club searches for NYC, Brooklyn and Long Island |
| Texas | About one in ten | Club and party searches in Dallas, Houston and Austin |
| Ohio | About one in sixteen | Club searches in Cleveland and Cincinnati |
| Pennsylvania | About one in eighteen | Searches from Pittsburgh and Philadelphia |
| North Carolina | About one in twenty | Party and club searches around Charlotte |
| Florida | About one in twenty-five | Mostly couples aged 35 and over |
Kansas, Indiana, Michigan, Illinois, Virginia, Washington, Connecticut, New Jersey and Louisiana each have a smaller group of members. If your state isn't in the table, widen your search distance: a couple of hours on the road is a fair price for the right couple.
A younger crowd than you might expect
Here is how old our members in the USA are, singles and couples together:
Members under 3533%
Members aged 35 to 4429%
Members aged 45 to 5419%
Members aged 55 or over19%
Shares of our members in the USA, singles and couples together, from our member records.
That is a younger mix than the UK, where most members are in their late thirties to mid fifties. In the USA, couples in their late twenties and early thirties are a real part of the scene, and so are couples in their fifties and sixties. Say your age range on your profile and the right people find you.
How it works here
Clubs, takeovers and long drives
Three things set the American lifestyle apart, and each changes how you use the site.
Party weekends
Organisers hire a hotel or a venue for a night and fill it with couples. Getting on the list usually means knowing someone, which is where meeting people first pays off. Our page on swingers parties explains the rest.
Distance
Outside the big metros, the nearest couple may be an hour or more away. Chat, video call, then meet halfway in a hotel bar before anyone books a room.
Meet American swingers the easy way
Make a profile that says where you'll go
Name your nearest city, how far you'll drive and whether you travel for parties. A couple in Austin and a couple in Dallas can meet in the middle if both of them know it's on the table.
Search by distance, then by interest
Start wide and narrow down: VIP unlocks filters for city, distance, experience level and the kinds of play people are open to.
Plan the trip together
A private group chat, open to VIP members, holds up to 50 people and makes a club night or a party weekend with friends simple to arrange.
Before any meet, read your first swinger meet and our safety page. If you're new to the lifestyle altogether, the beginner's guide to swinging is the place to start.
Swingers USA questions
Are there swingers near me in the USA?
Our American members are spread across the country, with the biggest groups in California, New York and Texas. Join, set your location and search by distance to see who is within reach of your city.
How do I find swingers clubs in New York?
Ask the New York members who already go. Search for swingers near NYC, Brooklyn or Long Island, look for profiles that list clubs among their interests, and arrange to meet a couple there for your first visit.
Can couples from different states meet?
Yes. Put on your profile how far you'll travel, video call first and meet somewhere public before you plan a night together.
Is Find Swingers just for the UK?
No. Most members live in the UK, but the site is open to swingers everywhere, and American members join, search and message just as UK members do.
More places to play
See every country on our swingers by place page, or read up before your first night out.
Find your crowd, coast to coast
Join, set your city and see which American couples and singles are ready to meet.
Meet them now