Garden of England
Members from Dartford to Dover, a club near Maidstone and High Speed trains to London when you want the city.
More than 140 Find Swingers members live in Kent, and no single town dominates. They're spread from Dartford and Gravesend in the north-west to Dover, Folkestone and Margate on the coast, with Maidstone, the Medway towns and Canterbury in between.
That spread works in your favour if discretion matters. Search a little wider than your own town, and the people you meet are less likely to know your neighbours.
Getting around Kent
Members are scattered across a big county, so the way you travel shapes who you meet.
High Speed trains reach Ashford from London in about 38 minutes, and St Pancras to Ebbsfleet takes 15 to 17. For couples in mid and north Kent, a night at a London club is a realistic plan, not an expedition: see swingers in London.
The M2 and A2 head for Canterbury and Dover, the M20 for Ashford and Folkestone, and the M25 crosses the north-west corner. Pick a junction between your two towns and look for somewhere nearby.
A quiet country pub halfway between two towns makes a natural first meet. On the coast, from Margate round to Folkestone, a seafront bar on a weeknight draws no second glances.
With members spread across the county, a little planning goes a long way.
Start with 20 miles from home, then widen it for a weekend meet.
Driver, train or both? In a county this size it matters, so put it on your profile.
Choose a pub or hotel bar between your two towns, well away from your local.
If it clicks, book a night away together, or head to a club in Kent or London.
Read our swinger profile tips before you write yours, and our safety page before you meet anyone. Near the Sussex or Surrey border? Widen the search, and browse the other counties on our swingers UK page.
Shares of our members across Kent, singles and couples together, from our member records.
Nearly three in ten Kent members are 55 or over, above the UK's 23%, and more than half are 45 or over. The 35 to 44 band still edges it at 31%, and under-35s make up fewer than one in five.
Pleasures in Kent is an adult-only private club on Red Hill in Wateringbury, near Maidstone, with party nights every Friday and Saturday. Before you plan a visit, check its own site for current nights and how to join.
For a first drink, the bar at Hotel du Vin on Crescent Road in Tunbridge Wells is a polished choice. In Canterbury, The Loft Bar on St Margaret's Street is a late cocktail bar that suits a livelier second date, and it's closed on Tuesdays.
Private house parties and hotel nights run by invitation, and our page on swingers parties explains how hosts choose their guests.
Kent's nearest scenes, and the reading for your first night.
Pleasures in Kent, in Wateringbury near Maidstone, is an adult-only private club that opens its doors every Friday and Saturday night. Check its own site for current nights and how to join before you go. The London clubs are within reach too, with High Speed trains from Ebbsfleet and Ashford into St Pancras.
They're spread across the county: Dartford, Dover, Maidstone, the Medway towns, Canterbury, Margate, Gravesend, Folkestone, Tunbridge Wells and Ashford all have members, and no single town dominates. Set your search distance from home, widen it at weekends, and you'll see exactly who's within reach.
From much of the county, yes. St Pancras to Ebbsfleet takes 15 to 17 minutes by High Speed train, and Ashford is about 38 minutes from London. Plan around the last train home, or book a room in town and make a night of it.
Somewhere neutral and away from your local. A hotel bar in Tunbridge Wells or a country pub halfway between your two towns both work. Keep the first meet to a drink, talk limits openly and leave the rest for another night, when you both know what you want.
Build a profile tonight and find the couples and singles worth crossing the county for.
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