Recent and really you
Taken in the last year, in good light, with no filter you couldn't defend in person. Old photos get found out at the first drink.
Profile tips
Swinger Profile Tips: Get Replies From the Right People
Write it together, show recent photos, name your limits and sound like people someone would happily share a drink with.
Couples: write your swinger profile together
A couple's profile written by one partner reads like it, and the first thing anyone wonders is whether the other half is keen. So sit down together and write it as "we".
Then give each of you a line of your own: who's the talker, who's the shy one, whose idea the lifestyle was. Cover both your ages, how long you've been together and how long you've been swinging. If other couples are who you're after, our page on meeting swinging couples has more.
Photos
Photos that get you noticed for the right reasons
People decide whether to read your profile before they've read a word of it.
Together, at least once
One picture of you side by side shows you're a real pair, and it answers the first question people have.
Faces, shared privately
Keeping faces off your public photos is common and fine. Lead with a confident shot that shows your style, then share a face picture one to one with someone you've chatted to and trust.
Suggestive, never explicit
On Find Swingers, anything that might be explicit stays blurred until the viewer decides to see it, so an explicit main photo reaches people as a blur. A great dress or a sharp shirt does more for you.
What to write on a swinger profile
Five things belong on every profile. Leave one out and your inbox will ask about it.
- Who you are. Ages, roughly where you are, how long you've been in the lifestyle and what you're like on a night out.
- What you're into. Soft swap, full swap, same room, separate room, threesomes, foursomes, clubs, parties. Be precise: the words exist so nobody has to guess.
- Your limits. What's off the table, said plainly and without apology.
- Who you're not looking for. If you don't meet single men, say so once, politely.
- How far you'll travel. Say if you can host, and when you're available: weekends, midweek or both.
Keep the tone warm, specific and a little cheeky. "A long dinner that turns into a late night is our idea of fun" says more than "fun, open-minded couple" ever will. If any of the words above are new, our guide to swinging terms explains them.
Swinger profile examples to borrow from
Don't copy these word for word. Read them to hear what warm and specific sounds like, then write your own.
A couple's opening lines
"We're a sociable couple in our forties, twelve years together and still each other's favourite bad influence. Soft swap so far, same room only, and we'd like to meet a relaxed couple for drinks first and see where the evening goes. She's the flirt. He's the one who remembers to book the taxi."
A single woman's opening lines
"Confident, curious and in my thirties. I'd like to meet couples who are easy to talk to and happy to go at my pace, starting with a drink with both of you. Kind, clean and funny gets my attention."
A single man's opening lines
"Late thirties, verified, discreet and in no rush. I've met couples before and I know the couple sets the pace. A drink with both of you first suits me, and if the answer afterwards is no, that suits me too."
Hoping to meet a single? Read how to find a third before you write the "who we want" line.
Profile mistakes that get you ignored
- A shopping list of body types. "Slim only" tells people how you'll treat them when you meet.
- Demands in capitals. "NO TIMEWASTERS" reads as shouting and puts off exactly the people you want.
- An empty profile. One line and no photos looks like a fake, and nobody writes to a blank.
- Only explicit pictures. They arrive blurred, and they suggest you skipped the conversation.
- Pretending. An old photo, a missing decade or a borrowed partner all come out at the first drink.
Get the verified badge
The free ID check puts a verified badge on your profile, and video verification, a live check with a moderator that needs no documents, is there for anyone who would rather not share ID. A badge answers the first question every careful couple has: are you real? Your community rating, shaped by how you behave and the feedback you get, sits alongside it, so good manners count too.
Keep your profile discreet
Pick a username with nothing of your real name, your job or your street in it. Your real name and email stay hidden on Find Swingers, and the only location anyone sees is your nearest town.
Then check the background of every photo. A house number, a work lanyard, a number plate or a distinctive painting can give you away to the wrong person. Our safety page covers the rest.
Profile done? Here's what comes next
On Classic there's a limit on how many messages you can send each day. VIP removes that cap and adds advanced search filters: compare them on our features page and pricing page, or browse the rest of our swinging guides.
Swinger profile questions
Should swingers show their face on their profile?
It's your call. A face picture makes trust easier, but plenty of swingers keep faces private for work or family reasons. If you don't show yours, make the rest of the profile warm and detailed, and share a face picture one to one once you've chatted and trust the person.
What should a couple write on a swinger profile?
Who you both are, how long you've been together and in the lifestyle, what you enjoy, what's off limits and who you'd like to meet. Write it as "we", give each of you a line of your own, and finish with how you like a first meet to go.
How many photos should a swinger profile have?
Three to six works well: a clear main picture, one of you together if you're a couple, and a few that show your style on a night out. Too many and the strongest get lost; too few and people wonder what you're hiding.
What should a single man put on a swinger profile?
Honest, recent photos, a short bio that shows you understand couples set the pace, your limits and how far you'll travel. Get verified, say you're happy to meet for a drink first and leave out anything explicit. Patience and manners stand out more than any picture.
Why isn't anyone replying to our profile?
Usually it's the photos, an empty bio or a list of demands. Add recent pictures of you both, write a few warm and specific lines, state your limits without capital letters and get verified. Then message people first, mentioning something from their profile.